Procrastination

What is Procrastination ?

What are the causes of procrastination ?

What are the effects of Procrastination ?

How to overcome procrastination.

What you might want to know.

                             What is Procrastination ?

       Most people tend to procrastinate all the time. Little activity becomes greater one. At the office files heap waiting for attention. But ‘I am tired and I will have it done later’ eats up the time for sorting them out. Procrastination has become many people way of relieving themselves of their jobs not knowing that they are only complicating the issue.

       Procrastination simply means transferring or postponing a thing to be done at a particular time to another which might end up being found difficult to do or using more than the required energy and time or not being done at all.

      You can use the phrase ”the time is not come” for procrastination. The phrase simply means not wanting to do something at the time instructed, telling something to wait till you are ready, postponing or shifting the time set aside to do something.

These are some Causes of Procrastination

Fear: Most people procrastinate when the thing they ought to do or say is posing a threat. The threat might be how the world will see them or accept what they say or do.

Laziness: This is one of the vital factors why people keep postponing. This is when someone is unwilling to work or utilize his/her energy to work.

Ignorance: This also play a vital role in procrastination. Lack of knowledge about the importance of doing something usually makes people to postpone it.

Lateness: When people set aside the time for doing something, inability to meet up  with the time could make them to postpone one or two things for next time.

Level of strength: Your level of strength is the most common reason why so many people procrastinate . When the level of strength one has is not enough to tackle a task, it could lead to shifting it till when the strength is renewed.

Wrongly organized time table: For most students, assignments and some house chores are postponed as a result of wrongly organized time table. That is the reason every student is advised to check and always cross examine his/her time table before use.

Resentment: When someone is possessed by anger at that point, important things seems to be minor. Lack of interest follows resulting to pushing aside the activities to be done.

Comparison and Attendance: This has to do with comparing two or more activities, as the end one might be valued less and will be shifted.

Nagging boss/Parents or Guardians: So many individuals tend to shift or transfer what they ought do as a result of their boss, parents or guardians nagging attitude. At that point you aim at their satisfaction.

Lack of commitment: Some people procrastinate because they don’t like dedicating their time to work. It is preferred to rest and later do some less time consuming activities.

Hatred: This could make you postpone something and hoping to do it when likeness is developed for it.

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Building your self-esteem

                   

Lets outline some necessary sub-topics

(1) What is self-esteem ?
(2) Why is self-esteem important ?
(3) How to improve your self-esteem.
(4) Must everyone be pleased about how I carry my self ?


What is self-esteem ?
      

      Some people find in difficult to associate with others as a result of self-esteem. This occurs in three ways- we have low, high and good self-esteem. Low and High self-esteem are of disadvantages. It is advised to have a good self-esteem.

     Self-esteem: it is the respect or admiration for one self , it is acknowledging ones potentials, beauty , quality, including importance to both your self and people around you e.g family, friends and neighbours. Low and high self-esteem can be very challenging. How ever many suffer more of low self-esteem.

   

Low self-esteem: it has to do with looking down on your self. Perhaps, because of your disabilities,past mistakes, faults, speech disaster - You don't know how to speak in public. It is however recognized that this makes a lot of people withdraw the best of them or to keep their potentials and what could earn them a lot of remarks and more to them self. 

      

High self-esteem: it is on the other hand an opposite of low self-esteem. This brings about pride which could be tagged as "the down fall of a man". People who have self-esteem belittle others and their offer. As a result, their ego makes them lose a lot of good achievements. Those whit high self-esteem speak rudely to others and this is bad.

     

Good self-esteem: is the best advise to be portrayed by all. love your self, admire your self, but it must be at check. unlike people with low and high self-esteem, they do not blame them selves and others respectively when something goes wrong. They reason things out, see their role and the roles played by others. they easily forgive them selves and move on. looking down on people is not found in them , instead they create boundaries for all. where people think they are incapable they prove them wrong by believing in them selves, challenging them and working towards success instead of hiding a way like those with low self-esteem. Or feeling proud to ask for help like those with high self-esteem. Good self-esteem makes you know better and accept who you are, what you have and can give, what the future has to offer.

Why is Self-esteem very important ?

 Good self-esteem is really necessary. How you view your self affects your daily activities or better still the way you live. Here are some important things about having a good self-esteem:

(a) Self-confidence: it prepares you towards facing challenges,crowed or discouragements as you believe in your self.

(b) Courage: it helps you to tame your fears and convert it to positive things that could be of assistance.

(c)  Self-acceptance: with good self-esteem, you accept the person you really are and fight to be better in future.

(d) Decision: it helps you in making decisions as you know your opinion counts.

(e) It helps one to resolve his/her issues by thinking straight and knowing who is at fault.

(f)  It helps you to forgive your self for the wrongs you have done, forget your mistakes and move on.

(g)  It helps one to live his/her life to the fullest as one doesn't let low self-esteem make people to toss you around or having the feelings that you are bad as a result of a high self-esteem.

(h) It helps one to speak up when pressured to do something bad or feeling cheated.

How to improve your self-esteem.

     Despite the importance of a good self-esteem, it is still very challenging to most people especially teenagers and a few youths and adults to showcase good self-esteem. 

        Most teenagers feel their background- poor,chattered home,divorced parents-have made them not qualified to speak in the midst of other teenagers. Some have resolved to being introvert-or though some people are naturally that way. Most has developed bad habits like drinking, smoking and clubbing.

      Some youths show high or low self-esteem as a result of fear emanating from crowd or past mistakes they also tend to develop bad habits. 

     To improve good self-esteem, here are some tips to follow:

(a) Identity why you are scared of speaking amidst others e.g why your stomach often sings, why you feel you would throw up or why you are nervous- is it the faces you see ? does it remind you of something ?.

(b) Confess the positive side of the challenge. For instance, you recognized it to be a result of your poor background, confess that you are rich and carry your self as one.

(c) If speaking is the problem- perhaps people laugh at you- next time, talk less, listen more to them, learn their usage of verbs, fix something together, meditate on it, take a deep breath and say it calmly. Don't rush as this could make you inter change one verb with another ( it wont take you more than three seconds )

(d) try to chip one or two things into the conversation and do it boldly ,do this once or twice.

(e) Try reading good books, study with dictionary, listen to goo radio and television stations, read good magazines and news papers, this will help to improve your speech.

(f) Talking to some you trust about it would help. It maybe a friend, teacher, uncle, aunt, parent etc who could offer help.

(g) Work towards accomplishing some boldness, you don't need to be perfect. You can do this by practicing in front of a mirror.

(h) Try hard not to compare your self with or envy others. Believe in your self, your shape and potential is fine. See your self as equal with others.

(i) Don't pick on your weaknesses, pick up skills and develop them.

(j) Forgive your self of your past mistakes and forge ahead. "Dream big".

(k) Set good goals that are SMART.

(l) Change what you can and live with those you can't.

(m) Stand firm on your decisions or opinions. You have to make them sometimes and seek healp when necessary.

(n) Renew your courage. You can speak to those around you ensuring you look into their eyes. This will help your boldness outside.

(o) Try as much to exercise your self this is necessary.

(p)  Learn to relieve your self of your burdens, have fun and rest.

(q) Pray often, listen to good musics ( you can also sing them )

(r) Enjoy seeing each morning. Be your self and accomplish your dreams each day.

I believe that this steps i have listed would help to build your self-esteem if you work towards them carefully.

    

     MUST EVERYONE BE PLEASED ABOUT HOW I CARRY MY SELF ?     

      Well, this worries some people much. You might say "people complain about how I talk or even walk". Watch it ! You might not be doing it right. But sometimes, it is what you think that matters. So play cool, just make your self-esteem good and see the marvelous changes.